Ever had a mind affair ?

Delving into the depths of another mind can be both interesting and adventurous. Similar minds attract while different ones mesmerise...

Quite often we find a person attractive or beautiful. But how many times do we find another person mentally stimulating? Like a good book or a movie, how many times does another leave us with thoughts to mull over, questions to answer and yet more questions to ask?

Do you wait eagerly for the next meeting of minds with someone? How often does someone excite the mind rather than just the body or emotions?

You may grow used to the sheer physical beauty of your loved one; grow out of a sexual attraction or even get used to their kindness, warmth or niceties and start taking these for granted. But there is one thing that can neither be taken for granted, nor is a trait you could get used to or grow out of. This is the stimulating power of another mind, the uncanny intricacies of the mind that attract and enrapture you.

This is the one quality that doesn't come with an expiry date.

As a young girl, along with other friends, I enjoyed reading Mills & Boons, not for any sexual content as most imagine (back then they didn't even exchange a kiss till the last page), but for the witty repartee between the main characters.

The almost-always petite, fiery haired and tempestuous heroine and the tall, arrogant, dark hero with superior intellect and a silver tongue. Their exchanges would hold me enthralled and for me, these became the definition of romance.

If you were in love, you had to be able to exchange witty repartee; it became an irreplaceable stimulant in a relationship. The relationship of Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet in Pride and Prejudice too had acrimonious but stimulating conversations as the basis.

We are always interested in the working of an unusual mind. Those who are predictable get boring after a while. It's the minds that are able to think differently, think out of the box, come up with new, creative ideas and keep destroying to rebuild again, that are really worth interacting with.

Whenever a problem is brought up, almost everybody tries to offer quick, easy and commonplace solutions. And then there may be that one person who will think different. And come up with a solution that's unusual and pathbreaking. That's the mind that operates a notch or two deeper than others.

You may talk to many during the course of a day. And yet there may be the one whose conversation had the ability to make you sit up and take notice; the one whose thinking process and mind not just interested, but challenged you. That is the mind and the conversation that stays with you, the one that you will seek out again and again. The one you will have a mind affair with.

A mind affair that is quite different from a physical affair. Or even love or romance. Delving into the depths of another mind can be more interesting and adventurous than anything else in the world. While a similar thinking process and similar thoughts can be attractive and reassuring, what can be mesmerising is a different mind that challenges your understanding and the working of your own mind. It is not necessary that the mind you relate to would be attractive to another as well.

Criminal minds all share a common mind-set that is disturbingly different from the average mind-set. Such proclivity towards a criminal mind is evident from childhood. The very strangeness and dangerous quality of this mind holds a different type of fascination for us and we find studies, books and movies made around the study of such a mind extremely engaging.

And then there is the realm of mind games, games that highly intelligent minds play to control the minds of those lesser than themselves or those emotionally dependent on them. Such intelligent, but complicated minds can be highly dangerous and are usually associated with people who have a high IQ level. You wouldn't even realise and somebody close to you could be controlling your every thought, every action and emotion. And deriving a great satisfaction from it!

It's almost like playing a game, like posing a challenge to oneself. Such a mind often veers towards obsessive and it can be very difficult to disengage from such a person who almost takes you over mentally.

Also consider the twists and turns of the corporate mind, the ability to survive highly politicised situations and stay afloat with sheer power of mind. This can be a unique aphrodisiac when you win the games and the worst depressant when you lose some! It's a game of one upmanship. Such games can be dangerous for the uninitiated, though they are a deadly battle of survival that takes place every day, all the time, just beneath the sophisticated, smooth-seeming veneers of most organisations, at the higher levels.

The beauty of finding a person whose mind appeals to you is that he/she keeps you fully engaged and in a state of perpetual stimulation. The effect can be a highly positive one if you do not allow yourself to be completely overshadowed but rather focus on enjoying the magnificence and intricacies of such a lively interaction and taking inspiration from it to build your own mind and grow to a higher level together...

vinita dawra nangia

Become who you are -

...." That is why it is so important to let certain things go.To release them.To cut loose.People need to understand that no one is playing with marked cards;sometimes we win and sometimes we loose.Don't expect to get anything back,don't expect recognition for your efforts,don't expect your genius to be discovered or your love to be understood.Complete the circle........Not out of pride.inability or arrogance,but simply because whatever it is no longer fits in your life.Close the door,change the record,clean the house,get rid of the dust.Stop being who you were and become who you are ".


The Zahir

Some Zahir....

Esther,the zahir...
1
.......She fills everything,She is the only reason i am alive.I look around,i prepare myself for the talk i am to give,and i understand why i braved the snow,the traffic jams and the ice on roads:in order to be reminded that every day i need to rebuild myself and to accept -for the first time in my entire existence-that I love another human being more than I love myself.

On the contrary i am pleased that she exists;she has shown me that i am capable of a love of which i myself knew nothing,and this leaves me in a state of grace.
I accept the zahir,and will let it lead me into a state of either holiness or madness.

2

.......Love is an untamed force.When we try to control it,it destroys us.When we try to imprison it,it enslaves us.When we try to understand it,it leaves us feeling lost and confused.
This force is on earth to make us happy,to bring us closer to God and to our neighbour,and yet,given the way that we love now,we enjoy one hour of anxiety for every minute of peace.

"Even worse are those people who say:I'm happy because i'm sacrificing my life for those I love".
"And you think that the people who love us want to see us suffering for their sakes? Do you think that love is a source of suffering? ".
"To be honest,yes".
"Well,it shouldn't be".

3

......."In order for the true energy of love to penetrate your soul,your soul must be as if you had just been born.Why are people unhappy? Because they want to imprison that energy,which is impossible.Forgetting your personal history means leaving that channel clear,allowing that energy to energy to manifest itself each day in whatever way it chooses,allowing yourself to be guided by it".

4

.......'You will find someone else'
'Of course I will: I'm young,pretty,intelligent,desirable,but will I experience all the things i experienced with you?'

'You'll experience different emotions and,you know,although you may not believe it,i loved you while we were together'.
'I'm sure you did,but that doesn't make it any less painful.We'll leave in separate taxis tomorrow.I hate goodbyes,especially at airports or train stations.

5

.......And i am sad,because it makes me think you're about to leave.I've known you would ever since we first met,but its still difficult,because I've got used to being with you'.
'Thats the problem,we do get used to things'.
'I'ts human too'.


.....

The Zahir

Being Someone..

Being someone ...other than Me is truely confidential and secret,nothing to do with actual or not so actual me. Night is beautiful giving me this opportunity to write something unconditional,that exists in everyone including
you and me(here me could be anything real or unreal).

Soft breezes..alluring moon with the sense of allowing yourself to be controlled by your wishes is the charisma of being someone...Life goes on giving you more and more chances to let you happy with its own style of making you dance on its tune..
Sometimes you get stuck on memories,moments and sometimes on illusion of you being other.I have tried many times to remove this adhesion which is turning into a contracture now. But you should know sometimes, 'try' stands for 'no way'.....And I think its common as i have rarely seen human anatomy having hollow on its left chest.Why we have been given a two essentially contradictory entities ?when God has made us a single creature ??may be that is why people search for their better half..One who can take care of their brain and heart..good deal.

Again coming on that adhesion ...you should try to make things bearable...
now i am not getting anything sensible to write here as my eyes are sensitive and occasionally act against my will...
Goodbye.

Healing Emotional Wounds

Healing emotional wounds...

Though very hard to cure but it is important to take care of your wounds,preparing for better further is the only option left, but you can make this painful process a bit bearable.

All emotional wounds are psychological and are our own creations.These can be managed by depressing your negative feelings. You know, what i do when my heart cries i simply pamper it and have a long conversation with it.I listen to it carefully, like i am talking with a child who lives in me and make him satisfied in any circumstances.We have to take care of our wounded hearts as God has made us their(our heart)guardian. Its our duty to make ourselves feel good because our heart is our child.We are the first row care taker of our emotions...Talk to him when he is happy or sad.Do not let him feel alone listen to him ..share your emotions/feelings with him and let him feel free to share its traumas anytime,anywhere even when you have no time...the only way to make yourself gravity free is talk to him..,convince him.. that everything happens with you,is the best can be happend at that time...

( as i told him )
take care...
Urfi :)

School Days !

Fill up the blanks to meet yourself as a school going ' You ' .....

I am ________spent ____years on this beautiful earth.I brought up in_____(good/bad/difficult)situation by my parents. I got admitted in________school,there my parents paid around________per month/year as my school fees.I was good in_______during my school days and passed every year with ______grade/division in same fees ,same teachers,same facilities ( or even more) as received by the topper of my class.In school days my crush was/were____( add many as blanks you want ;p) and my favourite teacher was _______miss/sir who scolded me___times mostly on my_____mistake.My school prayer was______ ( first two lines).My mom usually put_____in my lunch box,that time i hated____meal the most,now i dont hate it,why this change happend ? :O
My best friend in school was/is_____ with whom i spent______years.We used to share our laugh,tears,backbiting,secrets,tiffin,canteen,nick names of teachers,rough copy,fair copy,workbook,homework,unit tests,stickers,pen,pencil,rubber,sharpner,scale etc. I remember his/her's smile . I know/dont know where he or she is living now.Last words we shared together were______.
My classmates/friends used to call me_____( :P:P).
On my farewell day i wore______dress there i got title_______.That day he/she______
was looking like uff !!
I remember our school gatekeeper his name was_____.

I wanted to become______and now i am______,who is the best i know !

Dil ke armaa barishon mein beh gaye...

Talking about century's longest complete solar eclipse ...
Rain spoiled this biggest event .It was 6.15 am when my alarm shouted i woke up and saw clouds dancing on my head ,,,i only saw that black shadow appeared and disappeared quickly .I wanted to see the sun of that state,,but it was not in my destiny :(

Dil tod diya in badaalon ne really,,sare jazbaat,emotions paani mein beh gaye ...just because of that stupid act of clouds i missed that gharan on suraj. It was 'once in life 'opportunity to watch total solar eclipse. But dont worry ,next you will be watching it with your son or grandson from heaven !

Ladies, Read Only The First Part – Men, The Rest

A Woman was out golfing one day when she hit the ball into the woods. She went into the woods to look for it and found a frog in a trap. The frog said to her, “If you release me from this trap, I will grant you three wishes.” The woman freed the frog, and the frog said, “Thank you, but I failed to mention that there was a condition to your wishes. Whatever you wish for, your husband will get times ten!” The woman said, “That’s okay.” For her first wish, she wanted to be the most beautiful woman in the world. The frog warned her, “You do realize that this wish will also make your husband the most handsome man in the world, an Adonis to whom women will flock.” The woman replied, “That’s okay, because I will be the most beautiful Woman and he will have eyes only for me.” So, KAZAM-she’s the most beautiful Woman in the world! For her second wish, she wanted to be the richest woman in the world. The frog said, “That will make your husband the richest man in the world. And he will be ten times richer than you.” The woman said, “That’s okay, because what’s mine is his and what’s his is mine.” So, KAZAM-she’s the richest woman in the world! The frog then inquired about her third wish, and she answered, “I’d like a mild heart attack.” Moral of the story: Women are clever. Don’t mess with them. Attention female readers : This is the end of the joke for you. Stop here and continue feeling good. Male readers, continue reading…. … … … … … … The man had a heart attack ten times milder than his wife Moral of the story: Women think they’re so smart. Let them continue to think that way and just enjoy the show. PS: If you are a woman and are still reading this; it only goes to show that women never listen!

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SARAH

She was walking down the street. St.Clement street 1 km from the clement tower.

Clement Tower , heart of the city an important trade centre.It is important to mention its distance from street as people say government built it on the graveyard land.
Otherwise i do not believe in distances...

She was walking, suddenly she saw a huge shadow running( or flying....) across the pavement .She could clearly see the two bloody eyes under the falling light from street lamp.Its ( as she does not know what creature it is, may be a man)dark face was glowing....
Sometimes you cant tell what exactly you see .You do not know whom to believe eyes or truth. Your synchronicity disturbs that moments.
Yes ! it was surely something close to human not exactly the same, coming towards her. She scared... her eyes filled with terror....she wanted to run but she cant...

Suddenly she saw a man walking on that road, she shouted with all her power, contracting her vocal cords muscles to the maximum. As it was the only way to calm her beating heart which was running like a sports car can cross any limits to let her master reach the finish line.

But thank God. she was in car when it rained she waved at him and said bye !


That night she experiencd strange things...
She saw a white shadow...or a person wearing white clothes passing across door...taking quick steps...later on..somebody knocked the door ,on opening, nobody was there. Though sarah is a brave girl,but she do believes in paranormal things...

Nobody can denay non human presence they are around us..they do no t want to feel our presence or simply they do not like us...because they like " human " ,a rare species now. Soil is the best thing many times superior then Air and Fire..not just a calcium phosphate !

Sarah ! .... somebody calls her name breaking her thoughts....she looked around but it was none....none means none !

Things are getting strange day by day..Moreover the guy who she used to meet daily ,not seeing these days ...

Sarah...

She was walking down the street st.Clement street,1km from the clement tower.

Clement Tower..heart of the city,an important trade centre,it is important to mention its distance from street as people say government built it on the graveyard land .
otherwise i do not believe in distances !

She was walking suddenly she saw a huge shadow running( or flying....) across the pavement she could clearly see the two bloody eyes under the falling light from street lamp.Its ( as she doesn't know what creature it is,may be a man) its face was glowing.

sometimes you are not able to tell ,what exactly u saw.u You do not know whom to believe ..Eyes or Truth...your synchronicity disturbs that moments.

Yes it was surely something close to human not exactly the same, She thought..her eyes filled with terror...she wanted to run but she cant .

then ...


She saw a man walking on that road .She shouted for help as it was the only way to calm her heart which was beating like a sports car deadly wants to reach the finish line at any cost !

SARAH

Begins from a Seashore...

Girl is shouting on a small boy as he splits some tea on her dress from his cup uncounciously.
And when she stops shouting,,realizes boy is crying...She took her face in her hands
asks his name ,smiled,give him some toffees, ballons.Boy is now happy and ran away .

She is Sarah ,a lively,college going girl.

waiting here on seashore.......

and she sat down and wept , she think she knows Tom.

Tom..A well known story teller,understanding,mature,intelligent likes his own way of living.
they have been in relationship from college days.Tom belongs from a different city.

She is crying...

Part II

Sarah loves her dream more than Tom. Tom loves her but not her dreams.He should know what
she actually wants even what which she does not know.She loves Tom, but sometimes we cant differentiate between love...happiness..logic...desire for betterment.
Above all she is a girl , a machine runs on logic , she can sacrifice her present desire,happiness for the betterment of future, is all we can see in her role.

Night...

Do you really feel i have to start with darkness when i call this beautiful silence as night ?
i dont think so, it is the ending phase of your day, Night ..the time when you meet your dreams , your future, and most important yourself.

Shimmering of moon...silvering of roads... hide n seek of stars... never ending undisturbed sky...relaxations of vocal cords...mirage of dreams ....lub dub of your ' heart(s) '... feel it,,

Its an periodic silence to make your sweet memories cover your present .
Your opportunity to realize the ending of a complete day from your life, what you gave
or did, to make your loved ones feel happy,to count your blessing , to remember your God,
your contribution to yourself and this universe !
Night is innocence of a child, maturity of moon , showtime for stars and perhaps laundry
time for sun,,,who knows where sun goes during night ,may be enjoying its rotation on its own axis.Its better to ask this question to your grandma or a child .
' Laila ' what we call night in arabic is the greediness of sky when it absorbs all
spectrums of sun and refuses to give back a single one , so mean this sky .

May all the nights of this universe followed by a beautiful day to make this sacrifice of colours
into a fantastic beginning !

Extreme Exams

Cool !
Exams phinished ! hopefully result will be in my favour, it has to be !
otherwise whats the gain ?? on having creator of Universe as your friend,,
hamari tou setting hai . Waise thanks to me for all the hardwork i did this exams.

By the way this year i have passed with many other micro organisms biochemical
exams, with lots of pain and panic gain .

oops i am a professional physiotherapist now ! Congrats to me and my family .
after results i will definitely throw a party for all my paranormal friends, lol.
they dont exists but their imaginery presence gives me giggles :D

Profitable loss

Sometimes in life its very hard to say what you want to do what you want to achieve,
your heart saying something and your brain not accepting or vice versa.
Your eyes ears proving you wrong leaving you a weak person. And that time you want
to run from all these circumstances to a place where nobody is there to question you,
nothing to trouble you ,no difficult decisions , no unfaithful faith ,no bad consequences
no regrets,nothing. A place where you find yourself appreciating your doings your decisions.
And that place surely lies within your heart residing outside your body in someone's else body ...

Untitled

Oh me myself my presence, where are you,
Missing my inner, incompleteness my whole my few.
I heard you were here some life before,
But unable to refind you anymore..

I am purely me.
Not sensitive nor angel, i am me, not my thinking,
That's the true lie and the happening,
After the end before the begning.
Oh me listen my superficial my core,
Sometimes echoes get impure...

I am in search of myself just to see,
What i am why i am what is Me ?
I want to feel meet myself
Its depth its dimension its very extent,
And everytime when i reach my limits of eternity,
Something awakes me aware me..

This something is difference,
May be nothing like everything,
Its the land the freedom
the distance the spirituality
the beliefs the Destiny
leading the lagging,
That limits my unlimitedness...

Myself want to change my unchange
It want my begning from my endless end.
Myself also want to write the unwrite...
It want to feel to touch the vacuum,
to speak to hear the Silence,
But everything like nothing or nothing like everything,
Stops me aware me awake me,
And make my search unsearched...